What do you really want in life?
Feb 15th, 2008 by BolaOni
Most people don’t discover what they want in life until it’s time to die – and that’s a shame.
Most people spend the best years of their lives watching television or doing things they dislike. An author described humanity by saying, “Most people die at twenty and are buried at eighty.” Are you one of the living zombies?
What do you really want in life?
Some people struggle in answering such question. When asked what they want or what their goals in life are, many are unsure. They dillydally in their decision, hardly giving any thought about what they want in life. People without definite goals are letting time pass them by. Are you one of these people?
If you are undecided about what you want out of life, do not worry. There are many ways of discovering your purpose in life.
To discover what you want in life, try looking deep into your heart. Oftentimes, people are ruled by logic. People live by what they think they should be or by what others like them to be. The discovery process is the perfect time to listen to your heart. What your heart desires comes from the whispers of your authentic self. Your authentic self is the real you.
Listen to your heart to be able to listen to your authentic self. What your heart says usually feels right. What your heart desires is what you usually love to do and this represents your passion. Anything done with passion is like play where the task is accomplished without hesitation. You pour out your very best and feel no pressure or resistance.
You will totally enjoy doing things that are your passion. Setbacks, difficulties, and obstacles will make it more challenging, but should not deter you from pursuing your goals. Naturally, there may be barriers that may prevent you from reaching your goal, but your heart’s desire will find ways to overcome these barriers so that you may ultimately get what you want in life. Remember this: the universe supports people who are pursuing their passion and those who are pursuing their destiny.
However, this does not mean that you don’t use your head. People are born with both the mind and heart. Your duty is to live your best life and be in harmony with your mind and heart. The poet Rumi Wisely said, “Live completely in the head and you cannot feel the breath and rhythm of life. Live completely in the heart and you may find yourself acting like a love-struck fool with poor judgment and discipline. It’s all a fine balance - the head and heart must forge a lifetime partnership if one wants to live a beautiful life.”
Listen to your instinct. Part of human nature is the mysterious and spontaneous reaction on things. Often times, these are called instincts. Your authentic self communicates with you and guides you via instincts. Instincts are those gentle nudges that urge you to act and follow a certain path. Your role then is to listen attentively.
Often times, we listen to what others say and allow them to run our lives. Parents often do this to their children. “We come from a family of doctors, so my son must also be a doctor.” How often do we hear this from parents who have good intentions for their children? Parents unconsciously block the true expression of their child’s real self and calling. Friends and critics will discourage you and point out the impossibility of your dream. Before heeding their advice, evaluate the accomplishments of the critics. Did they achieve theirs dreams? Do they dream big at all?
Remember, it is your destiny that is in line, not theirs. It doesn’t mean, though, that you will not listen to what other people say. Hear them out just the same. But the final decision should be yours.
There is only one thing to remember: Every person, to live truly and greatly, must define how he wants to live and what his brightest life will look like. Listen to your instincts and follow your heart’s desire. You will never go wrong.
This is to your success as you discover your purpose this year. 
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Thankx Bola.
Honestly i appreciate ur kindness and open heartedness.
God in his infinite mercy will bless and reward you in million folds.
NOsa Pedro
I really thank you for the wounderful inspiration messages. It has contributed greatly to my life.I think it is life tranforming.I will appreciate if you will continue to send to my email more of this messages.I also want to know about investment,the best stock to buy that will be profiting and rewarding.
I will be glad if my request is granted.Thanks.
well the article is okay but do you know that sometimes it is not that i don’t like my job but the stipends given to me as salary is what i complain about and to me it makes me hate my boss because really i love the job and it is not easy getting another one easily and i really need one that will boost my financial status if you get my drift.i dont know if am making
I have just concluded my National Diploma in Accountancy.I want get back to school [graduate] , sit for the professional examination [ICAN],and to be specialized in field.
yea! That’s just the truth of the matter. i must let you know that whenever i read from you i always get to think about new things that will add value to my life and this at all times makes me review my core values. thank for being an instrument of a great blessing. you are a God sent ,keep up the good work. love you dearly.
thanks for the post God bless you
Thanks Bola for this very important subject matter you have discussed here today. Life is very short and there is no reason anybody should not be serious to know what he/she wants in life and plan to make it.
It is wise to identify your goals early and start working on them. This is way you have ample time to correct mistakes, rise when you fall, learn and improve your skills, etc. By the time success arrives you would still be young to enjoy the fruits of your labour.
God bless you.
James
@Pedro,
You are welcome man and thanks for your prayer. God bless you too
Elizabeth, you are welcome and trust me, there will be more coming in days, weeks, months and even years ahead. This is what I have been called to do
@yetunde, are you sure you are commenting under the right article?
Please look for the right post Ma’am and maybe you should look at how you can be more valuable to your boss so that he can have no choice but to increase your pay
@Elizabeth, you have something you are living for, make sure NOTHING makes you deviate from your goal. I look forward to celebrating your achievements in years to come. Remember to invite me o
Dele,
It is the Lord’s doing.
Love you too.
funmi, I am yet to hear from you. Please get to me soon
Mr. James God bless you too and thank for expanding more on the topic.
Hi! Bola,
Anytime i read ur mail not only am i motivated but also i am being given renewed hope.
You are an asset to me and humanity.
Thanks for everything.I appreciate.
Cheerio!!!
Onyekwere
Thanks Onyekwere, it is the Lord’s doing.
tnx alot 4 dat piece. Tis is my first tme givin comments and woud like to be true and thorough. pls 4give my misgivings in advanc if any and if none u can kindly return it cos i cud use it 4 anoda day(kidding). wel am wit d opinion dat humans dough wired differently are subject to bot logic and filings. And also lookin witin u becme fruitful only wen focusd and armd wit the knowledge of who u r and nt. The enviroment can’t be overruled as a factor to purpose, an eagle dat grows up amongst chickens mite end up dying like a chicken. Wel u can create your world but a wrong mindset will ruin PURPOSE.
It’s ok Lekan. All we need is idea.
i ve once told you that you are too much.blessed be the day you were born.i ve read some books and ve found out as you said to be yourself at any point in time,listen to advice and pick what you feel u need out of it.and try to ve the mentality of this is me and can’t be messed around with,and as i read this article just now i became happy with myself for who i am.i will everly remain grateful,thanks a lot.
Bolly,
Your are an anoited man of God ordained from heaven to console some heavy burden heart.May THY Lord continuing to grand you more knowledge to be lifting all burden minded.
Infact,your article are changing orientation one ,keep on……………….
Chinyere,
You know who to thank now. Na God my sister. If not for Him, who am I?
akin2ola, as usual, NA GOD!
Pray for more grace and strength for me
Bola, you have been doing a great job keep on keeping on
You keep making my head turn 360 degrees, I beg keep it up.
joseph nwokonta
Femmy, thanks for the comments.
Sir, Jossy, you are great too Sir
Bros, this write-up is too rich.May the good Lord continue to bless you.